- I hold the power of how my day will go.
- I cannot control what others do to me, but I can change how I react to it.
- I am alive, I matter and things will get better.
- I am thankful for my past because it shaped me into the person I am today.
- I am deserving and worthy of great things.
- I will not sacrifice my self-worth to please others.
- I will find the positives in every situation today.
- I have a purpose for being here and I will see this through.
- I am healing. I will have patience with myself and the process.
- I will be courageous and live true to my heart.
- I will follow through with everything I say I will do.
Self-love isn’t selfish, it’s needed. Loving yourself takes time, like every great relationship. Maybe you’ve spent most of your life in toxic relationships as a way to avoid loving yourself. Or you’re using external sources to hide an internal void. Let’s face it, you can’t run from your problems forever. Well, you could, but that will only cause more problems and prolong the healing process. It’s time to get back to you. I love you and I want the best for you, but nobody wants this more than you. It’s time to make your heart happy. Let’s work on you together.
The Three S’s:
Sobriety- Living a sober life brings time to work on yourself and heal from hurt. Let’s face it, you’ve spent most of your life using drugs or drinking alcohol to hide an internal void. Today will be the day you put an end to that cycle and get sober for good. (Check out my blog post on useful tips that helped me get sober and stay sober: https://sashasecrets.blog/2019/08/31/sobriety/).
Single- You don’t have to be alone forever, but every great relationship starts with yourself. Fall in love with yourself before falling in love with anyone else. True love starts with you.
Smile- Get to know yourself and what makes you happy. Take up hobbies that bring you joy. Do things you enjoy doing. A happy heart is a healthy heart.
Now that you have the three S’s down, let’s work on you some more. You’ve been avoiding you for too long. This will bring feelings you‘re not used to, but don’t turn back now. It’s time to work on healing.
Healing From Hurt:
Talk- Talk about your problems and feelings with other people. Whether the past, present or future is on your mind, it’s good to talk about it. Believe it or not, there are people who care and are willing to listen. If you feel like you have no one to talk to, you can contact me at RealTalk@Sashasecrets.blog.
Write- I know there’s a lot on your mind and you’re going through tough times. You have built-up thoughts and feelings that need release. Writing is a great form of therapy. Write in a journal when you wake up in the morning and continue to write throughout the day. Writing down your thoughts will ease your mind.
Listen- Not everyone is out to get you, there are people who have your best interest. Listen to what people have to say to you. Some of the best advice may come from strangers. Let others help, you don’t have to do this alone.
Remember… You’re healing. You’re a survivor. Don’t turn back now. Every healing brings great changes. Keep going. One day at a time, one step at a time. I’m proud of you for coming this far, don’t stop now. Keep fighting, you got this.
Time is inevitable and each day that passes is another day that we can’t get back. Your life holds the key to Heaven and what you do on a daily basis determines if your key will unlock the door. Time stops for no one, so don’t let life’s difficulties stop you. No matter how many mistakes you’ve made, there is hope. Transformation is beautiful, pain is beautiful, you just have to find the beauty in it. You can look back at your mistakes and be ashamed of what you did. Or you can learn from your missteps and grow from them. Let life change you for the better. The power you need to succeed resides in you. Hard times aren’t meant to break you, they’re here to teach you valuable lessons. You can overcome every obstacle you’re faced with. If you ever feel lost, there’s a shining Light that will guide you along your path. Life isn’t meant to be easy. Life is here to change you. The best changes come from the hardest times. If you’re wondering why you’re going through difficulties, take a step back and look at the big picture. Hardships are life’s wake-up calls to us. It’s time to get back in tune with who you are. You are so much more than the mistakes you’ve made. Maybe you didn’t get it right yesterday, but today’s sunrise is a reminder that you can try again. Let today be the day you put all of your negative thoughts to the side. It’s time to focus on the love and Light inside of you. Today is the day to shine bright for the world to see. Now is the time to get out there and turn your dreams into reality. If you’re willing to put in the work, you’re going to make it. You got this, I believe in you.
- Face your problems
Avoiding your problems will cause bigger problems. You’ll have to face your problems sooner or later, so it’s best to handle them now
- Write in a journal
Writing down your thoughts and feelings will help ease your mind from anxieties.
- Make room for you
Spend time doing things you love- take up hobbies.
- Follow your heart
Be a leader and create your own path in life. This is your life and no one else can live it for you.
- Remember who you are
Most of the hobbies we enjoyed as kids, we still love to do today. If you feel lost, take a step back and find yourself again.
- Learn from your mistakes
We cannot take back the mistakes we’ve made, but we can learn from them. Use your past mistakes as a stepping stone to better yourself and others today.
- Focus on YOU
Giving too much attention to outward sources and neglecting your own needs isn’t healthy. Focus on building a better relationship with yourself, then you can create healthy relationships with others.
- Spend time in nature
Nature is healing and gives you time to tune in with your higher self.
- Set goals
Setting new goals each day will keep you productive. If you fall short, the sunrise is a reminder that we can try again.
- Heal from hurt
Everyone is faced with hardships in life. How we handle these challenges is what counts the most.
I know you’ve been wishing on better days,
But you can’t make anybody change their ways.
It’s best to focus on what’s right for you,
There’s a Light inside to help us carry through.
It’s harder at night when you’re up in bed,
With endless thoughts playing in your head.
No one to turn to and you’re wondering why.
Told them you’re okay but that was a lie.
It has been a struggle just to make it out,
You’re dwelling in a place with clouds of doubt.
Just know that no matter how hard things are,
You will find more hope in a shining star.
I know you want to win this race,
But there are challenges we all must face.
Don’t give up, keep a steady pace,
I promise you’re life isn’t a waste.
Success you will soon taste,
But don’t you walk, you have to chase.
Your dreams and all you desire,
Don’t listen to the liars.
Hanging by a thread,
Swinging on a tire.
Live this path you’ve been lead,
Stand tall on the wire.
It doesn’t hurt playing with fire,
What hurts is giving up on your desires.
The world will still turn,
The fire will still burn.
Perseverance we all must learn;
Keep climbing, its almost your turn.
I know that you yearn for so much more,
But God won’t open his door,
Unless you stop treating life like a chore.
When you’re put to the test,
You should always try your best.
It’s okay to get some rest,
But don’t give up on your dreams,
Nothing is as hard as it seems.
Love brings Light beams,
In you is where it gleams.
There once was a girl that went to a maze. When she first started her journey, she was unsure of which way to go. There were many different routes and the girl had no knowledge where they would lead. She decided to head North, thinking that would be the easiest way; not knowing all the challenges she would face along the way. She decided to turn right, but that was wrong. Then she went to the left and was on the right track. Proceeding on her route, she came across six people that were crying at a dead end together. This saddened the girl. “Are you all ok? Do you need help?” The girl asked. “No, we give up,” they replied. The girl thought to herself: Maybe that’s what a dead end really means. If they don’t get up and try to get through this maze, then they will die in the same place because they gave up too soon. Those people are stuck somewhere they don’t want to be because they stopped trying. She didn’t want to be like them because she came to the maze for the Purpose to make it through. “If there’s a way in, there’s a way out,” the girl said. She continued on her journey and any time she went a wrong way, she tried another. She was determined and followed no one. It started getting dark and she got lost. The darkness made it more difficult and she was struggling. The girl noticed another route and headed towards it, only to end up at another dead end. “IMpossible! I give up! This is hard. I’m stuck. I want to go back,” she shouted. Frustration began to take over her. She was running out of hope. “I’m weak and tired. Please get me out of here… please. In Jesus’ name, Amen,” she prayed. A new dawn was approaching. The sun started to rise and shine through the maze. The girl looked up and noticed a shining Light in the distance. “One more time,” her Heart whispered. While wiping off her tears, she lifted herself up off the ground, then began to follow the Light. She was feeling hopeful that maybe there was a way out. When she got to the end of the maze that morning, everyone was clapping. The Light took her to a route that she didn’t know existed. She had no idea when starting her journey that there would be a big surprise at the end. The girl was astonished at what was on the other end. The maze was full of happiness and sadness, but the happiest people were the ones that kept going until the end, no matter how hard it got. They all celebrated. She was extremely thankful that she didn’t give up.
Not the end, just on to a new beginning.